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Newsletter 42
Soulful Serenity Community
As-salamu alaykum, dear beautiful soul,
Bismillah.
Over the past few days, I’ve been sitting with a reflection.
I’ve been thinking about the different seasons we move through as women… how our bodies shift, how our emotions change, and how, so often, we’re left trying to understand it all without ever really being guided through it.
And it made me realise how much of this journey we were never truly taught.
The Silence Around a Woman’s Experience
If you really think about it… How much were you actually taught about your body?
Not just in a physical sense , but in the emotional and internal experience of being a woman?
For many of us, our understanding was limited, , sometimes uncomfortable… and often incomplete.
So when things begin to change ,when your sleep feels different, when your emotions feel heavier, when anxiety shows up in ways you don’t fully understand , the easiest thing to say is:
“It’s just my hormones.”
And yes… hormones do play a role. That’s real.
But I’ve come to feel that this explanation, on its own, leaves out something important.
What the Body Remembers
As women, we carry more than we realise.
We carry the moments we never processed.
The emotions we didn’t feel safe to express.
The years of pushing through, holding it together, being everything for everyone else.
And the body… quietly holds onto it all.
So when we enter a stage like perimenopause, it’s not only a physical shift. It can feel like something deeper begins to surface… almost as if what was once kept beneath the surface is no longer willing to stay there.
Not to overwhelm you… but to be acknowledged.
And this is where I’ve seen such a difference.
Two women may walk through the same season . and yet their experiences feel worlds apart.
One feels consumed by it, unsure of herself, emotionally unsettled.
And another, while still feeling the changes, holds a certain steadiness within.
Not because one is stronger… but because of what has been gently worked through, and what still remains unprocessed.
Listening Differently
What if these changes are not something to resist… but something to listen to differently?
Not everything that feels uncomfortable is something going wrong.
Sometimes it is something coming forward.
A signal. A nudge. An invitation.
And perhaps this is where many of us feel lost, because we were never shown how to sit with what we feel, how to regulate what rises within us, how to understand the language of our own bodies.
It’s something I’ve had to learn slowly, personally… and something I continue to witness in the spaces I hold with women that when we begin to create awareness around our emotions, when we support our nervous system, when we stop running from what we feel… something begins to soften.
Not instantly. Not perfectly. But gradually.
A Quiet Reflection
Maybe this season you’re in is not here to unsettle you…
but to gently bring your attention back to yourself.
To the parts of you that have been carrying silently.
To the emotions that were waiting for space.
To the body that has been communicating in ways you may not have fully understood before.
And what if… instead of trying to push through it, explain it away, or quiet it…
you allowed yourself to become curious?
To listen without judgment.
To feel without rushing to fix.
To meet yourself with a little more gentleness than you have before.
Because within these shifts… There is also an opening.
Not into something unfamiliar,
but into something more honest. More aware. More you.
And maybe, just maybe… this is where a different kind of relationship with yourself begins.
With sincerity and du’a,
Nazia
P.S. If you find yourself wanting to understand your emotions and your body on a deeper level, I’ve created a few spaces where you can gently begin .whether through sessions, workshops, or simply exploring in your own time. You can have a look here:
https://www.naziasaley.com/
Or reach out to me directly if that feels easier:
https://wa.me/27765715382