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Soulful Serenity – Newsletter #28
Assaalamualaykum ,dear beautiful Soul
Bismillah,
We all know how important it is to be kind and compassionate to others. We speak about it often, and many of us try to live it every day. But what I’ve noticed, how rarely we extend that same compassion to ourselves.
The way we speak to ourselves, our inner dialogue, the tone of our self-talk often carries more criticism than care. Sometimes we say things to ourselves that we would never say to another person. It’s as though the voice inside has forgotten that we, too, are worthy of kindness.
Self-compassion isn’t self-indulgence. It’s an act of spiritual responsibility. Because when you start treating yourself with the same softness and mercy that you offer others, it creates a ripple effect , not just in how you show up for yourself, but in how you show up for everyone around you.
Why We Struggle to Receive Kindness
I’ve observed this in so many people, and maybe you’ll recognize it in yourself, too. Someone offers you a genuine compliment, and instead of simply saying “thank you,” you brush it off:
“Oh no, it was nothing.”
“Someone else did it better.”
Or you immediately deflect it with discomfort.
We do this without even realizing that what we’re really saying is, “I don’t believe I’m worthy of being seen.”
For many, this inability to receive kindness or praise comes from old wounds, from times we were made to feel not enough, not seen, or not worthy. And while we know that pride is a sin, we sometimes confuse humility with self-rejection.
But taking a compliment isn’t arrogance. It’s gratitude.
When you accept it by saying, “JazakAllah khayr,” you’re not claiming the glory for yourself; you’re acknowledging that what they see in you is a reflection of Allah’s gift. That is the truest humility.
And when we begin to see it that way, our confidence grows naturally,not from ego, but from awareness. Because you can’t walk in your purpose if you’re constantly shrinking from your light.
Gratitude: The Bridge to Growth
Practicing gratitude shifts everything. When you’re truly grateful,for the gifts Allah has given you, for the opportunities to use them, you begin to live with more peace, more joy, and more trust.
Gratitude heals the inner critic. It opens the heart to receive. It softens the old belief that you’re undeserving, and replaces it with a knowing that everything about you was created on purpose, for a purpose.
And that brings me to something I deeply believe in: the importance of living with vision.
Many of us have spent years serving everyone else, our families, our homes, and our roles. Being a mother, a wife, and a daughter, these are noble and sacred roles. But what I often see is that, somewhere along the way, many women lose themselves within those roles.
They wake up one day and feel a quiet emptiness. A deep question: “Who am I, beyond what I do for everyone else?”
The Vision Within Workshop is designed to help you rediscover that answer.
It’s not about doing more, it’s about returning to who you already are. It’s about reconnecting with the divine purpose that Allah created you for.
In the Qur’an, Allah addresses both men and women, where He says, O mankind, O believers, O the believing men and believing women. He doesn’t separate us in our spiritual worth or our purpose.
Yes, our roles in life may differ, but when it comes to worship, intention, and the pursuit of purpose, we stand equal before Him. Each of us was created to serve in our unique way, but the call to live with meaning, to strive in His path, and to return to Him with a sound heart .that call is for all of us.
When you begin to live from that truth, every role you play becomes infused with meaning. Every act becomes worship. Every breath becomes intention.
If you’d like to be part of The Vision Within Workshop on Wednesday, 26 November, message me to reserve your space. https://wa.me/27765715382
A Year of Uncovering Purpose
As we approach the end of the year, I want you to take a moment to reflect not on resolutions, but on alignment.
This isn’t about waiting for January to begin again. It’s about choosing now to live with purpose. Because the new year will come with its busyness schools, responsibilities, Ramadan around the corner . and it’s easy to get swept up in the doing again.
But if we take the time now to align our hearts, to create a clear vision, and to uncover our “why,” we can enter that sacred time differently more grounded, more intentional, and more at peace.
If you’re ready to go deeper into this work ,to heal emotional patterns, to reconnect with yourself, and to create lasting inner change , I have a few spaces left for one-on-one emotional healing sessions.
Bookings for the new year are already filling up, so if you’d like to begin, please reach out soon through my website https://www.naziasaley.com or via message to secure your space. https://wa.me/27765715382
Reminder
Be gentle with yourself. Receive kindness the way you would offer it to another. Speak to yourself with mercy. And when someone sees the light in you , don’t hide it. Just smile, say “JazakAllah,” and remember: they are seeing a reflection of Allah’s gifts through you.
Love, light and gratitude
Nazia