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Assalamualaikum dear beautiful soul,
Bismillah
First, I want to pause and simply say thank you. Thank you for being here, for showing up in this space, for reading, reflecting, and even for the small messages that some of you send my way. Every word you share is precious to me, and I’m deeply grateful for this growing community.
This past week on Instagram, I put up a poll about a new series I’ve been dreaming of The Healing Umbrella. The idea came from the storms I’ve had to walk through in my own life, and the simple yet powerful tools I discovered along the way. Tools that helped me regulate my nervous system, steady myself in chaos, and even find moments of peace within the storm. The response to the poll was beautiful and affirming, and I’m excited to share that this series will be coming out, insha’Allah, in October. I’m busy working on it, and I cannot wait to invite you into it.
Meanwhile, we’re already on Day 22 of our Gratitude Challenge in the Soulful Serenity community. If you’ve been journeying along with me, I want to acknowledge you ,whether you’ve been consistent every day or simply dipping in and out, know that it all counts. Gratitude is never wasted. What I love most about doing this challenge again and again is how it never feels repetitive, every round reveals new layers of appreciation, new ways of seeing what’s in front of us. And remember, it doesn’t stop when the challenge ends. Gratitude is not a project we finish; it’s a way of living, a lifelong rhythm that transforms how we experience the world.
And that brings me to today’s reflection: not concerning ourselves with what isn’t ours to carry.
In our communities, it’s so common to justify curiosity as “concern.” We tell ourselves we’re asking about someone’s situation to help, or that offering unsolicited advice is care. But the truth is, carrying other people’s business is a burden that was never meant for us. It weighs us down, clutters our minds, and often, it hurts our relationships. No one wants to feel controlled. No one likes to be told what to do. And truthfully, most of us don’t want to explain the details of our choices either.
This is why boundaries are so important. They’re not a “Western idea” as people often assume , they’re deeply Islamic. Our tradition has always emphasized respecting privacy, guarding our tongues, and keeping our focus where it belongs. When we honour this, life feels lighter. We stop taking things so personally. We give people space. We free ourselves from unnecessary baggage. And the most beautiful part is that our relationships improve, because they’re rooted in respect, not control.
So perhaps today is a reminder to practice this wisdom: My business. Your business. Allah’s business. We don’t need to know everything, and we don’t need to explain everything. Sometimes, peace is simply found in letting things be.
I’ll leave you with this thought:
When we stop concerning ourselves with what isn’t ours, we make space to grow what truly is.
Until next time, may your days be filled with gratitude, may your heart be light with trust, and may you find peace in protecting your own sacred space.
With love and du’as always,
Nazia
PS. If you’re looking for more tools and guidance, explore the digital masterclasses and courses I’ve created on my website. Each one is designed to support women in their journey of growth, healing, and self-discovery. And if you’re seeking deeper support, I also offer one-on-one emotional healing sessions a space to explore your feelings , release what weighs you down, and begin to rebuild from within. Any investment you make in yourself is never wasted , it’s the seed that grows into everything else.
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