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Newsletter 50
Soulful Serenity Community
As-salamu alaykum, dear beautiful souls,
Bismillah.
Before I begin today's reflection, I want to pause for a moment and say Alhamdulillah.
This is Newsletter Number 50.
Fifty weeks of reflections, lessons, stories, healing, growth, and sharing this journey together.
When I started writing these newsletters, my intention was simple: to create a space where we could pause amidst the busyness of life, reflect a little deeper, and reconnect with ourselves, with one another, and ultimately with Allah.
If you've been reading from the beginning, thank you for being part of this journey.
And if you've joined somewhere along the way, welcome.
For those who would like to revisit any of the previous newsletters, I've included the link below.
https://naziasaley.blogspot.com/
This week, I was reminded of something that I think many people on a healing journey need to hear.
Healing does not mean you won't get triggered.
I know that sounds obvious, but when we're doing the work, when we're learning, growing, attending workshops, reading books, listening to podcasts, going for therapy, emotional healing, coaching, or whatever path we're taking, there's often an unconscious expectation that eventually we'll get to a point where things won't affect us anymore.
And then something happens.
Someone says something.
A situation arises.
An old wound gets touched.
And suddenly it feels as though everything you've learned disappears.
This happened to me recently.
Something triggered me.
And for a moment, it felt like I had taken ten steps backwards.
All the things I teach.
All the tools I know.
All the awareness.
It felt like it disappeared.
But Alhamdulillah, because of the work I've done over the years, I was able to catch myself.
I was able to recognise what was happening.
I was able to pause and say:
"Ah... this is the wound speaking."
"This is the trigger."
"This isn't who I am. This is an old pattern that has been activated."
And that awareness changed everything.
Not because the trigger disappeared.
But because I didn't stay there.
I think this is one of the biggest misconceptions about healing.
People think healing means never getting triggered.
It doesn't.
Healing means recognising the trigger sooner.
Healing means recovering faster.
Healing means responding differently.
Healing means not allowing one difficult moment to convince you that you've failed.
Because that's what so many of us do.
We have one setback.
One difficult day.
One emotional reaction.
And suddenly we convince ourselves that nothing is working.
That we've made no progress.
That we're back where we started.
But that's not true.
The fact that you're aware of what's happening is progress.
The fact that you're noticing the pattern is progress.
The fact that you're reading this and reflecting on it is progress.
What I've also come to realise is that healing was never meant to be done completely alone.
We heal in connection.
We heal through support.
We heal through community.
There is a reason why we share our stories.
There is a reason why women gather.
There is a reason why support groups, communities, circles, and safe spaces have existed throughout history.
Because sometimes another person can see what we cannot.
Sometimes another person can remind us of what we already know but have temporarily forgotten.
And sometimes simply knowing you're not alone changes everything.
I truly believe that Allah is constantly guiding us.
The help we ask for often comes.
The signs are there.
The lessons are there.
The people are there.
But we need to be willing to see them.
We need to be willing to receive them.
And sometimes what keeps us stuck is not the lack of help.
It's that a part of us feels safer staying where we are.
Because even painful patterns can feel familiar.
And familiar often feels safer than change.
Until we become aware of it.
This is why I remain so passionate about emotional healing.
Because underneath so many of our struggles are patterns, beliefs, wounds, and emotional habits that we've carried for years.
And when we begin to understand them, everything starts to make a little more sense.
Not overnight.
Not perfectly.
But gradually.
And that gradual shift changes lives.
If this is a journey you feel called towards, there are still a few spaces available for emotional healing sessions.
You can also explore the self-paced workshops, masterclasses, and resources available on my website.
And Alhamdulillah, there are also some exciting new projects that will be launching soon, which I cannot wait to share with you.
You can stay connected and explore everything here:
A Closing Reflection
Maybe healing isn't measured by how often you fall.
Maybe it's measured by how quickly you remember who you are.
Maybe it's not about never getting triggered.
Maybe it's about learning not to build a home there.
Because every time you become aware...
Every time you choose differently...
Every time you return to yourself...
You are healing.
Even when it doesn't feel like it.
With sincerity and du'a,
Nazia